Of make-believe princes and damsels-in-distress.
At a very young age, we were subjected to believe that love is a thing that everyone has a privilege to have. For girls, we were read fairytales and the image of a perfect prince riding on a white horse is imprinted on our minds. We were forced to believe that someday soon, our prince, too, will come. This prince will sweep us off our feet and take us away to his castle, to live that ever cherished happy ever after—a basic childhood fantasy. And so for a while, we hope and wait, believing that all of us have their destined person and that he exists as our soul mates, our missing half.
For boys, as a child, they used to live in a pretend world of strong and might superheroes and powerful kings, with the thought of being the one to protect people and save damsels-in-distress. They are exposed to playing roles of dominance and glory. To some, prestige and honor becomes higher up in their priorities than a life of commitment, passion and love. Some other would believe that girls are just trophies for all the wars they have won. Some would grow into men who would treat girls like weaklings, trying to do everything on their own. And to a select few, girls would be like precious gems, very laborious to even reach. Nevertheless, there would always be a pre-existing notion of what love is supposed to be.
And then we grow up, we live our lives and for the first time, uncover pieces of the truth. With each year, we unmask the harsh reality that sometimes, love isn’t available for all. Yes, there lucky ones who find their persons and live their childhood fairytales together.But for others, true love became absurd, an impossible thing to come by. We find ourselves in destructive relationships that make our past faith in the love to crumble into dust. Some find themselves completely alone, all hopes of a prince to come thrown away into nothingness. So I guess what I am trying to say here is that expectations, no matter how little they are, would always render us pained and hopeless when a contradicting reality sets in.