“You should be grateful, other people have it so much worse that you do.”
Of all the advice and soothing words, this is the last thing that I would want to hear from anyone. For me, it is the most selfish and most insensitive consolation someone could give to another person. If someone is already being eaten up by their problems, this is not a good way to help relieve the burden. It’s like telling someone to ignore the dagger stabbing at his/her heart just because someone else has a great big sword stuck on theirs. A small dagger or a giant sword, either way, both would cause immediate death. It’s the same with problems. No matter how small or shallow our problems are compared to others, it doesn’t change the fact that this problem is bothering us and affecting us negatively. It will be there and won’t go away. So I really think that it’s useless to say the words above to anyone at all. It would probably better if you try to hear out and understand the reason for the person’s agitation rather than asking them to dismiss whatever feelings they have.